Write him a letter.
burn it/send it/ tear it.
Write her a letter.
send it/ tear it/burn it.
Cry for a week or until you feel tired.
Buy a hula hoop or something that made you happy as a child.
Eat your favorite dessert.
Name your pain.
Name your abuser.
Tell the truth.
Smile at yourself in the mirror.
Stop beating yourself up for mistakes you made in your teens/twenties.
So what you dated (had a baby by, wasted time on a, was hurt by) a loser. You are more than your mistakes.
Give thanks for the lesson.
It's not always easy, but try to forgive your parents. If they hurt you, there's a great chance they were hurt.
Forgiveness can sometimes feel too big. Sort of like a big ass elephant sitting on your throat.
I know personally how difficult it can be to have compassion for someone who has caused you great pain.
But it works, if you work it or want it to work.
Sisters, we don't have to carry or be defined by PAIN. We deserve a break from it. Don't you think?
Have enough courage to change the script. Welcome Happiness, Joy, Peace, Great Sex, Beautiful Conversations, Trusting relationships, Honest Laughter... If you don't know where to begin, find a good therapist/counselor/life coach who can assist you.
This type of healing doesn't happen over night, so you might as well get started on it now :)
Happy New Year! I love and believe in you!
